But to be frank it also soinds like it wasn‘t very good therapy! Not to downplay what you‘ve written. But I had some really good experiences with therapists, which for once actually gave me perspective on my own thoughts and that not everything I tell myself is true. Also I got sone very real advise like trying to stop drinking alcohol. Which helped me tremendously.
I am also thinking about a quote I‘ve from John Cage. About thoughts that go out of your inner mind: i.e. written down / said aloud thoughts have a very different nature to thoughts which stay inside.
There is also a whole dimension to speaking what you think aloud (preferably with some kind of audience) as some kind of thinking strategy. I remember learning about that in Psychology Class.
Just some thoughts about this. Very interesting article, thank you for that. And great quote as well!
I can really relate to this!! Talk therapy really was not effective for me either...I has a counsellor omce admit to me that my self awareness is leaps and bounds over what she could do for me...lol at the time I didn't really take the compliment I was more frustrated than anything...I just wanted to feel better but at the end of the day I mean its not a one size all fits program either...I think k as you stated it comes down to listening to yourself and trusting yourself
The angst you describe is palpable. Talk therapy has a role - but having an understanding that the answer for most things is the choice we have inside, some calling it our Buddha nature - helps see what counseling can help with. And in your experiences you’ve really described that discovery. Jung saw this as well. The use of talk still comes back to Ourselves.
I take break ups very hard - that hasn't changed no matter how much time has passed. However, I spend time sitting with my thoughts and self reflection. I can safely say I am a very self aware person - the good, the not so good and yes, the triggers.
Every break up I’ve ever had was really tough on me. Interestingly, the break up mentioned in this story was my very last one. The next girl I dated I married lol.
But to be frank it also soinds like it wasn‘t very good therapy! Not to downplay what you‘ve written. But I had some really good experiences with therapists, which for once actually gave me perspective on my own thoughts and that not everything I tell myself is true. Also I got sone very real advise like trying to stop drinking alcohol. Which helped me tremendously.
I am also thinking about a quote I‘ve from John Cage. About thoughts that go out of your inner mind: i.e. written down / said aloud thoughts have a very different nature to thoughts which stay inside.
There is also a whole dimension to speaking what you think aloud (preferably with some kind of audience) as some kind of thinking strategy. I remember learning about that in Psychology Class.
Just some thoughts about this. Very interesting article, thank you for that. And great quote as well!
I can really relate to this!! Talk therapy really was not effective for me either...I has a counsellor omce admit to me that my self awareness is leaps and bounds over what she could do for me...lol at the time I didn't really take the compliment I was more frustrated than anything...I just wanted to feel better but at the end of the day I mean its not a one size all fits program either...I think k as you stated it comes down to listening to yourself and trusting yourself
The angst you describe is palpable. Talk therapy has a role - but having an understanding that the answer for most things is the choice we have inside, some calling it our Buddha nature - helps see what counseling can help with. And in your experiences you’ve really described that discovery. Jung saw this as well. The use of talk still comes back to Ourselves.
I take break ups very hard - that hasn't changed no matter how much time has passed. However, I spend time sitting with my thoughts and self reflection. I can safely say I am a very self aware person - the good, the not so good and yes, the triggers.
Every break up I’ve ever had was really tough on me. Interestingly, the break up mentioned in this story was my very last one. The next girl I dated I married lol.